Alright, guys. I hope this video/article comes out good because I’ve been planning to talk about this for a while. But I’ve been busy with the academy and now I got two schools so I’m traveling from one school to another so I never had time to do it. What I want to talk about today is about my gratitude towards the parents of my students for being so classy. There are a lot of reasons why they’re so classy but one of them for sure is the culture of our school and what we praise here and if you don’t belong to that culture, you end up leaving and not staying with us. The culture that I’m talking about is mainly about respect. Somehow down the road, I see some jiu-jitsu places losing that respect. We were at a tournament the Pan American for kids we could witness parents screaming and yelling at their kids when they come out from a loss, they were pointing fingers to the kids and yelling louder and louder as the emotions arises. I just thought that was insane and crazy.
But the fact is most of the times our parents never fought and never tried to see how hard it is to compete. And it’s evident that they’re frustrated with whatever happens in their lives and they are transferring all this frustration towards their kids so they want their kids to be better than anyone else but I don’t think this a great way or good reason to force the kids to accomplish that. We need to give the kids the freedom to choose to become a better athlete and a better human being. But those behaviors of parents yelling at their kids will not teach that to the kids. Most of the time, the children got scared or they don’t believe in themselves or they made a mistake and end up losing a tournament but I don’t see a reason for all that yelling and finger pointing from the parents end to their kids. But I really wish that one day it will end in jiu-jitsu or any sport. I also think that it’s about the coaches to teach it to the parents. For example many times here at Sampa bjj we have to ask the parents to leave the room or stop coaching their children while we’re having jiu-jitsu classes. Only the coaches should coach during a tournament or class and it’s okay to point out mistakes in a proper way.
I know a lot of friends and parents but they were not that rough and they’re pointing out the mistakes in a good approach. I also had a friend and he was a basketball player and he’s playing for a university and he’s thinking about going pro because it can make a better life for himself but he’s not yet sure. And then he told his coach that he’s not yet sure if he’ll continue to be a pro in basketball and then his coach asked him if the excitement of playing basketball is still there and he said no. Then the coach told him that it is probably time to stop because when the excitement or fun of doing something is in there anymore then that’s the problem. And that’s the same for the kids. We don’t want to burn them out and lose their excitement. So again, thank you to all the parents out there who are very classy and understand that their kids are there in the tournament for their personal growth. If their kids win that’s great, if they lose we still can get better. Either we win or we learn or we evolve and I don’t think that losing is a failure. When you don’t participate and you don’t put yourself in there then that’s where the failure comes out. Thank you so much guys for listening to this and please don’t forget to subscribe to my channel at https://www.youtube.com/user/rmigliaccio and send me an email at rmigliacc[email protected] for topics to talk and we go from there. Thanks!
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